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Eight People, One Story.

How would you feel when a topic you don't ever wanna talk about sprouted out accidentally in a small group gathering? How would you feel when you're asked of your opinion over something you told yourself never to answer? How about perspiring because you don't know what to say, and passing the question to another person just so you can think about it first? These are some situations eight people had undergone one fine afternoon. Here's the story.


It was just an afternoon when six people started talking about random things when two persons entered the room. Suddenly, a guy among the group started asking this person, let's call him Sam, about what happened between him and his girlfriend. He said they are no longer together, because he broke up with her. The seven put him in hot seat, and let him
speak the truth. He just said that he ended it in a nice way, but he admitted that he did cry.


Upon hearing this, a girl named Rain related her situation with her past lover. She said that her ex-boyfriend broke up with her in a very heartbreaking way. The seven asked Rain then what happened, but she didn't dare answer.


A guy named Zio agreed to what Rain said; that those who are dropped by their partners have no right to tell others what happened. He said that he stopped the thing he and his girl had, because he realized that it was too soon and he only knew the girl for just a while. In fact, he still loves his first girlfriend and he still hopes for her coming back.


There goes Dianne, she realized that what she had with this new guy at school was just infatuation, especially the guy had a girlfriend. She was brought into light, and she realized that it was the best thing that she ended this "thing" with that guy.


Oops, here's Mila, she never had an actual and legal relationship with this guy, but they have been great friends before he left the country. Actually, everyone around them supported their loveteam. The seven guessed that Mila's doing okay, and just going on with the flow.


Now we have Ringo and Janine, they did have their "past love" with each other but when the six started interviewing them, they had nothing to say.


Lastly, We have this guy named Wesley, he already found his dream girl and actually had an affair with her. But he was very hurt because all of a sudden the girl started hating him. Rain actually sympathizes with him, because she felt the same way.


Dianne told them that her dream guy must be God-fearing, and everyone agreed. Wesley and Janine added that their dream partners must be music-minded. Everyone was quiet for a while.

Dianne asked them how will they know if they already found whom God created for them? The boys said that it's not true. God gave each person the freedom to choose whom to love, He's
just there to guide. Zio gave her an example: When you suddenly fell in love with a drug addict, God is there to guide you how to handle that situaion, whether to stop it or not. Dianne then said that the song "When God made you, He must've been thinking about me" isn't correct. Zio answered maybe, and he said that there's a lot more about love that they have to know
about, and they shouldn't rush about it.

Wesley asked Rain what if her ex-boyfriend came back and wanted to be together with
her again; she replied "maybe not anymore, but if he's sincere and his love is true, then I'll make him court me for years." Well all of them laughed and agreed eventually. Zio pointed out that this time in their lives, only admiration is allowed. Everyone agreed once again and realized it was already getting late. They didn't finish their talk in a formal way, because they know what they felt and just kept silent.


Complicated as it is, these people have something common to share: an experience of being in love, being brokenhearted,and being matured. Sure thing, love is just one word but its meaning is only defined by, well I don't know, I guess it's only a choice. When we choose to love, we should love what we choose. Love isn't only about "Feelings" but love is also about "principles." You don't choose to love a person you never like,right? Instead you look for someone you like and eventually fall for them, and you're lucky if the feeling is mutual. Eventually, you'll have a relationship and soon commit to each other for a lifetime. It's just a matter of waiting, time, and of course "making it happen." You shape your own destiny. Well, I'm no experienced woman to be talking about this sensitive matter, but my thoughts are flying with it...

YOU decide, you define, you experience LOVE.






*this is a true story, used screen names though.